Sometimes fathers get the short end of the stick when it comes to child custody. However, modern courts aim for a more balanced approach to parenting time. According to the New Jersey Courts, it is state policy to maintain frequent visitation and contact between parents and the children.
However, this does not mean you should sit back and let the court proceedings occur without doing anything. There are several things you should consider before the divorce begins.
Consider your goals for child custody
A judge will listen to your side of the story when arguing for custody. However, they consider several factors when they decide. If you travel frequently, it is unlikely you will become the custodial parent unless the mother is a danger to your child’s well-being. You need to either make a change in your work life or accept an arrangement in your child’s best interest.
Keep your children out of it
Divorce is difficult for children. Resolve not to involve them in the decision-making process or force them to take sides. This can have long-lasting effects on your child’s well-being and create resentment.
Protect your emotional health
You need to worry about your emotional health as well. Have a group of friends and family you can rely on and consider seeking professional help through a psychologist or psychiatrist. Do not try to tough it out on your own, leading to rash decisions and more conflict.
Fathers must consider the best interest of their children during divorce. Be prepared to compromise, and create a realistic parenting plan that does not lead to underlying resentment.
